This trait game, along with Royzman’s review of the literature on attraction, hints at some of the endless quirks of the online dating marketplace.
You might like someone online, but they put 100 on income, and unfortunately you’re about a 10.
I think for a second, and then I write equal amounts (70) next to both hotness and kindness, then 40 next to income and 20 next to fidelity.“Oh wow,” he says.“What? Usually women allocate more to fidelity and less to physical attractiveness.
Edward Royzman, a psychology professor at the University of Pennsylvania, asks me to list four qualities on a piece of paper: physical attractiveness, income, kindness, and fidelity.
Then he gives me 200 virtual “date points” that I’m to distribute among the four traits.
“I’m here to find someone for marriage because I’m too busy to meet anyone and I spend all my free time with my family,” she said during a break, as her parents eagerly compared notes on the male prospects.
Organisers said more than 2,000 people had applied to take part in the session this past weekend, the second staged so far by “Halal Speed Dating”, which uses the term denoting practises that comply with Islamic rules. But unlike Western-style speed dating, which is geared toward matching up people for later dates and courtship on their own, couples in the Islamic version are expected to seek marriage soon after both sides agree, including the parents.
For women, however, "It's a more complex choice,” he said.