"Tinder changed the landscape of online dating a little," my friend Nomi*, 30, who identifies as queer, said. Dating apps nowadays make me want to move to a cave in the mountains and change my name." Another friend of mine, also named Lindsay, 34, who also identifies as queer, echoed similar sentiments, saying that she hates lesbian dating app Her because it's too much like Tinder in all the wrong ways."I want to actually hear more about the person than one headline and 10 selfies." Her founder Robyn Exton did tell CNN Money back in May that the rebranded app would have more text boxes and photos so that people could see "the interesting parts of how she lives," but a recent tour through the app shows that the extra info is still pretty rarely filled out.
He says that dating apps rely so much on people who are nearby, and if those people aren't there immediately, people will leave the app.
"People are willing to travel to meet each other, but only so much," Chen writes.
"And there needs to be the right mix of male/female participants (or whatever permutation makes sense)." With a 2011 report by the Williams Institute showing that only 3.4 percent of Americans self-identity as lesbian or bisexual women, the odds you'd find the correct permutation in a given area is slim indeed.
Chen adds that "until there's word-of-mouth, and enough people to generate a quality experience, the marketplace will suck." So lesbians who have primarily heterosexual friends might not know about the app, and gay women who hang out with other gay women probably see people they already know on the app (aka exes they'd rather not see ever again).
"On one hand, it's great that these girls have a venue in which to explore their sexuality safely, but on the other hand, I've learned a few times on first dates with women I met online that they've never been with a woman before," she says.