I certainly do not advocate authoritarian parenting styles, but if we practice a permission parenting style we’re abdicating our God-given responsibility to provide guidance, nurture, limits, discipline and consequences to our teen (all of which actually help our teen flourish long-term). Even through their teens, your child needs a dependable, confident, godly authority figure in their life.
As parents we are called to provide a relational context characterized by wisdom, protection, love, support, and empowerment.
During the teenage years, it’s especially important to slowly put to death the perception that your teen is still “a kid.” They are , and if you engage them as such, you will find that over time, they unconsciously take on this mantle for themselves.
Yes, your teen can be moody, self-absorbed, irresponsible, etc., but your teen can also be brilliant, creative, selfless, and mature.
We seem to communicate red flags to our daughters more than to our sons.