Not that that’s necessarily what you want—and if you’re getting laid and happy about it, more power to you.But if what you’re looking for is an actual relationship that might lead to something like a lifetime (or at least long-term) partnership, you’d be wise to arm yourself with ways to help you sift through all the dudes you meet, date, and sleep with, and focus on the ones with real relationship potential. I’m not saying you should go all and start playing hard to get, but you can save yourself a ton of time and energy that might otherwise be spent seeing emotionally unavailable, immature, incompatible, or game-playing men by using a few smart tactics.
But really, what do your friends know better or more about this situation or relationship than you? You were there when he kissed you goodbye after the date or sleepover.
If you’re feeling insecure and unsure whether a man you’re into returns your feelings, realize that obsessing about it isn’t helping the situation; it’s just making you paranoid and full of self-doubt—shitty feelings, indeed!
You may think no one has ever made you feel like this and you can’t help but be amazed at the chemistry, or electricity between you and this new love. But sadly those involved don’t take the time to get to know each other before jumping into something serious.
Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they spring up.
It’s not that you should sequester your heart and your feelings away behind an iron shield of indifference.