I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.
After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?
Dun Laoghaire Institute of Art, Design & Technology, Ireland, June 13-17, 2011. Talk given to Fraud Women's Network, 21 New Street London, EC2M 4TP, July 28th, 2011.
Keynote address: Loved and lost: An examination of the psychological impact on victims of the romance scam. (2011) Romance Scams: Can we help potential victims? European Communication Research & Education Association: Interpersonal Communication & Social Interaction Section.
Relationships should be less predictable and worth waiting for.