You might want to dismiss Chris as just another misogynist. A devoted husband of 21 years to his late wife Rosie, who also worked in television until her sudden death from an undiagnosed heart condition in 2008, the urbane Chris is as removed from a stereotypical knuckle-dragging woman-hater as you could hope to meet.
She told me that wasn’t enough, saying: “I have certain standards.”‘Yes, I’m a struggling actor. I was smitten instantly,’ he recalls.‘Things were great at first, but when our daughter was born in 2014, it felt to me like my wife didn’t want me any more.
We divorced in 2015.‘I’ve been on dates since then, but soon think to myself: “What’s the point?
If they met someone for real, they’d maybe not find out their age until they’d been on a couple of dates, by which time they’d probably like them and the age wouldn’t matter.‘But instead, all they’re looking at is a photograph and they’ll swipe or click “yes” or “no”.
It’s very difficult.’Alex Cavadas, 41, a divorced part-time actor, says he’s a victim of this pickiness — and has given up on love after a series of emotionally crushing dates with women seemingly set on just one thing: money.
They tell me: “I might find another relationship, but even if I do not, I can cope.” ’Meanwhile, Selena Dogg-ett-Jones, a psychosexual and couples’ therapist, sees men as less able to cope with an entirely new dating landscape which has made singletons much pickier about prospective partners.‘If you’re newly divorced, the dating game has changed dramatically; it’s all online now,’ she says.‘People who had finished a long-term relationship or were widowed used to be introduced to someone new at a dinner party.‘But today people will say precisely what they want online.