You would have a hard time convincing me in my twenties but now at 43, I know that not wanting to have sex doesn’t mean your girlfriend isn’t attracted to you. We have long days that leave us mentally and physically exhausted. Then when they don’t get it back, they internalize, thinking it’s them. The thing about “I love yous” is it means different things to different people.
It’s incredible how much of our behavior is determined by how we are raised. It just means that the grand romantic gesture is not a part of their vocabulary.
One year, after yet another birthday disappointment, I finally realized that something had to change — and that something was me…I mistakenly viewed television-style romance as concrete proof of true love.
I believed that all men could be moved to extreme romantic measures if they really loved their lady.
Mixed signals leave two people reacting to false information. But when the inconsistencies are subtle, like minutes turning into hours or the tone and energy has changed, it can drives us nuts. So what do you do when you notice a slight delay or change in tone? I have a friend who will engage in lightning speed text banter for hours, then suddenly go dark and completely ignore a question I asked for days. There are so many reasons why a kiss may not surface on the first date that has nothing to do with you or the chemistry.