Taking their feelings into account is good, but don’t forget that they have their own lives to mind and should leave the minding of yours to you. Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned.
If you weren’t living your life by committee prior to your spouse’s death, don’t start now. Only introduce them to people you feel you have a future with, and when you do, expect them to behave like well-brought up humans. If problems arise with adult children, remind them that they should spend their time and energy minding their own lives.
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Next I tried to cultivate a dating minded relationship with an industrial tech teacher I’d met through my master’s program that summer.
Average time frame for widowers who remarry is about two – three years while for widows, it’s three to five years.