Dating up or down


I wasn’t creating five-step plans to help them end their toxic relationships, discussing them to death as they never followed through on their promises to leave.

I wasn’t taking late-night phone calls to argue or vent. It dawned on me that the same principle applied to my romantic relationships.

They were deep and perplexing, enticing since I loved a challenge.

They were confident enough to break through my walls of busyness and fear, but their cocky attitudes eventually gave way to their deeply-rooted insecurities. I don’t see you with a smooth-talker, more of a legitimately good person.”I went to bed thinking about what he said, letting those seeds start to take root. Of course I wanted someone “good.” But did I actually look for that in practice, or just seek out recovering bad boys that I could rehabilitate toward some kind of “good-ish” end?

I remember it hurt; I don’t remember all the details. He was a fantastic liar, always changing his story so smoothly.

I recall a series of ups and downs, in which I felt completely inadequate as a relationship partner. He always made me believe in his intentions, before retracting his words and making me feel crazy for believing his previous sentiments would hold weight.

I appreciate the way my friend Mike boosts his girlfriend Jordan's sense of independence during an incredibly busy time in her life.